You may have had a recent loss, or it may have been some time since you lost your loved one. Do not compare the timing of your loss and your grief with someone else. Grief is grief and it is hard to go through. It will take you the time that it does.
Don’t try to rush, or run and hide from your grief. You need to experience the pain and sorrow to be able to move past it and on toward healing. Things swept under a rug are still there, you just cannot see them until the rug is pulled back.
There is a phrase I like because it describes the process so well, “The work of grieving.” Work- the activity involving mental or physical effort in order to achieve a purpose or result. (Oxford) Not only are you mourning the loved one you’ve lost, but also the hopes, dreams, unfulfilled expectations, and needs you had for and with that person. These are significant secondary losses that you must identify and grieve. (LegacyConnect)
“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” New Living Translation. Let Him be close to you now, share your broken heart with Him.